Love And The Law Of Attraction
59When was the last time you said, "I love you" to someone? Do you have a spouse, child, parent, sibling, other relative, or friend to whom you can say this . . . occasionally or on a regular basis?
Many people do not express how they feel to those they love for a variety of reasons: fear of rejection, fear of judgment, embarrassment, shyness, shame, believing you won't hear it in return, and a myriad of other possibilities. However, most of these reasons can be boiled down to one overriding cause - lack of self love. This translates into lack of confidence and low self-esteem, which in turn can create lots of negative feelings and experiences in our lives. Law of Attraction says we create our reality by how we think and feel - whether positive or negative. The Universe has no judgment as to whether something is good or bad for us. It just matches what we are feeling - the vibration we are offering - and gives us more of the same.
Therefore, lack of self love can affect us in every area of our lives . . . our relationships, our health, our jobs and financial situation, and our spiritual beliefs. If you could see the potential for a better life by learning to really and truly love yourself, would you be willing to try? Once you start loving yourself and others, your world around you will change as well. The outer is but a reflection of the inner.
There is a very easy way to determine if lack of self love is indeed your reason for not telling others you love them, and hence for the negative experiences in your life. Look in the mirror. Look straight into your eyes and say out loud, your name, followed by the words "I love you." Pay close attention to how you feel. Be honest with yourself. No one else is listening. How do you react? Is there any feeling in any part of your body? What emotions, if any, are triggered. The experiences and reactions I've observed in my years of training have included everything from sincere, hearfelt expression, to breaking out into tears, to not even being able to speak.
If you can tell yourself you love yourself, with no emotional charge, you're more than half way to being able to tell others you love them too. They want to hear it; they need to hear it. Even if they don't return the sentiment, you honor yourself and them by telling them how you feel. Try it, you'll like it. And so will they.
If you are someone who has difficulty saying these words to yourself, that's not reason for concern. Be grateful you are able to recognize your challenge and start your new journey from where you are. Be gentle with yourself. Start slowly. If you can only look at yourself and not say anything, do that. After a time if you can mouth the words, do that. Or try one word at a time. Any word will do. Practice this every morning and every evening - a good time is when you brush your teeth. You're already doing something good for yourself; let's build on that momentum!
I promise you, after a few days, weeks, perhaps a month, it will start to get easier. Even if you do not believe the words to be true, if you can say them, eventually the Law of Attraction will find that vibration and give you things to love about yourself. Try it. You've got nothing to lose, much to gain, and very little time invested.
And . . . you will notice something else. When you begin to love yourself truly, from the very depths of your being, others will notice. They will pick up on the love vibration you are offering. Law of attraction will bring people to you who will respond to your feelings of love. The more love you feel - the more you offer this vibration to yourself, others, and the universe - the more you will attract to yourself. You will be in vibrational alignment with others who are sharing that feeling. It's magical. The arguments with your spouse will cease. The mean boss will start to be nicer. The tension between you and your neighbor, kids, relatives, etc. will subside and eventually vanish.
Love is one of the highest vibrations we humans can offer. Whether it is to ourselves or others, it will bring us more to love. More loving people, more loving experiences, more joy and peace than we might even think possible. But you can't love everyone you say? How can you love the man who robbed a bank, the woman who cheated on her husband, the stranger in the car who just cut you off for no apparent reason?
Allow me to share a thought which may help you to some extent: Everyone (including you AND the three mentioned above, and everyone else) is doing the best they can in the state of consciousness they are in. That allows for the possibility that they can change. And indeed they can. Ever heard the expression "kill them with kindness"? If someone acts toward you in a negative way and you do not respond, their behavior cannot survive; it will have no one to land on and will dissipate.
We think we are being strong when we react in anger and yell or seek revenge. Truthfully that is acting from a place of weakness. Can you see that coming from a non-reactive place, a place of love and forgiveness is the true example of strength?
This practice will be much easier when you truly love yourself. Watch your self talk. Do you berate yourself for things you do which feel unacceptable. What if your best friend did it? Wouldn't you be there for them? Wouldn't you offer unconditional love and support for someone who is hurting or unhappy? Why would you do less for yourself?
Think about love. It is the answer to everything. Or, at least it's step one. Your confidence and self esteem will soar. Your negative emotions will dissolve, or at the very least, be less severe and easier to handle. Then the rest of your life will change as well. What were once problems will become challenges. What were once obstacles will become opportunities. All you have to do is look in the mirror. Love yourself. Love who you are, because who you are is much greater than any negative emotion you can come up with. If you can achieve this, Law of Attraction will work in your favor. To quote Abraham-Hicks, "It is law."
